How To Stay Body Positive & Confident
How To Stay Body Positive & Confident is a question that I think all women ask themselves at some point in their lives and one that I really wanted to explore.
Body positivity is something that I am so passionate about as you all know. It is a subject that can empower you to achieve your life goals as it makes you feel confident and content with yourself but how do you stay positive and confident about your body?
As human beings, it is natural that we go through these struggles, after all, it is totally a love-hate relationship that we have with it. I for one, have been through this, just like many of you are either going through now or like me have been through.
Now I have many life mottos as I constantly share with you all but one that I truly believe in is that all women are beautiful no matter what shape or size they come in, after all the world would be a very boring place if we were all the same (sorry, another motto)! To me, that is what makes the world so beautifully interesting… everyone is unique and it is all about finding your personal uniqueness to rock your style with confidence and attitude!
When I first started thinking about this subject, I realised that as women we all have different ways of achieving this. I for example, achieve this by looking at myself in the mirror, straight in the eyes and giving myself a little pep talk about what a beautiful, confident and amazing woman I am who can achieve her many life goals but what I really wanted to do was seek advice from my fellow females of the world to find out how they stay positive and confident about their bodies!
When I first reach out to these beautiful ladies, little did I realise how many women were going to come forward to share this with me which really highlighted to me how important this issue is!
Here 78 beautiful women share their answer to my question…
I think I’ve primed my brain to consider bodies more like mine to be attractive rather than bodies that I genetically could never be like. I’ve always saved pictures of women as motivation, originally in a scrap book, now on Pinterest. Something which helped me a lot was going through them and deleting any that I couldn’t possibly attain and choose some more of women with bodies like mine, looking fabulous or slightly fitter than me as motivation for workouts. But not a huge amount. Always attainable. I did the same in my “Dream Wardrobe” board too. I had lots of pictures of girls with rail thin legs, which I’ll never have and chose outfits which would actually suit me instead.
I think of all the wonderful things that my body allows me to do—explore new cities on my own feet, dance with my friends, swim in the ocean, etc. Recognizing the strength it provides me is what keeps me body-positive.
I stay positive by thinking and understanding that everyone has a different body and unique genes that sometimes we cannot change. I may not have the perfect thighs, the perfect arms but I cannot change it all at once so I learned to be happy with my body and myself.
Every morning, part of my routine involves looking at myself in a full length mirror and telling myself how many different ways I am beautiful. I remind myself of the wonderful things my body has accomplished: my hips have given birth to a beautiful, healthy child; My legs have run half marathons; my smile brings joy to others.
I am reasonably fit and healthy and that is all that really matters. I have never compared myself to anyone else and have never been affected by advertising, even when I was a teenager. I’ve also never compared myself to celebrities. I am generally a positive and confident person so I think that spills over into every aspect of my life. As far as I’m concerned it is all about what your body can do, not what it looks like.
I try to focus on what my body can do when I do exercise rather than how I will look. I do wear make up and my 4 & 6 year old daughters always ask what I’m wearing and love it but I try to take the focus away from looking pretty and make it more about because I feel like it or I want to rather than I need it. I do go without make up sometimes like for the school run or to go grocery shopping from time to time.
My diet is poor. I do however try and make fresh healthy food for the girls and tell them all about the benefits of what they are eating even if I can’t follow through.
I remind myself that I’m lucky to be in great health, which is more important than the “perfect” body. I look for progress in the small steps towards my tough fitness goals, so I can enjoy the process while keeping the end goal in mind.
I remind myself that my body does not define who I am and that it’s more important to keep my body healthy so I can do all of the things I want to, than it is to fit a certain dress size.
I try to eat healthy and keep my face clean and moisturized. Fortunately I have good skin, and I always try to think about the parts of me I love instead of the parts that I don’t.
I’ve struggled with body positivity since middle school, when a particular boy in my class used to tease me about my small chest. Although I naturally kept a healthy weight, I was always concerned about the numbers on the scale. Today I’m 30 weeks pregnant and I found out at my 29-week appointment that I’ve gained 20 lbs. Sure, some of that went to my now-larger chest (wahoo!), but it’s been a challenge looking in the mirror and seeing my much-more-round body. I’m young (23), so it can feel scary losing my “best body ever” at this age. However, I keep reminding myself that I shouldn’t be ashamed of my body, but proud of it! Somehow it’s managing to create a whole human who I feel kicking, poking and stabbing me with her little limbs. That’s a miracle, and something I shouldn’t regret. In a few weeks when I’m holding my little girl in my arms and I still have stretch marks and new saggy skin, I don’t want to look at those and think, “If only I could have kept my young body a couple years longer.” I want to see them as trophies of a job well done. Creating another human is hard work, and it’s important work. There’s no need to be ashamed of my new body — it’s beautiful, it’s strong and it’s mine.
I try to keep things in perspective and be realistic about how my body is compared to others, how everyone has parts of their body they would like to be different in some way… and I try to make the most of what I have by buying clothes that make the most of my figure and make me feel good!
After having two babies within 2 years just a year ago, body image is something I struggle with, but I know that my body has been through so much…I had major surgery back to back, one year apart which resulted in two beautiful and healthy kids. That reminds me what an amazing thing my body truly is. I try to find clothes that make me feel comfortable and confident. Recently it’s been everything LuLaRoe…everything fits, but isn’t too confining and their prints are amazing.
I have been battling weight issues ever since college, I can lose weight just as easy as I can lose it. Post pregnancy, the flab and love handles have added to my body woes. Nevertheless, I never let anything or anyone shame me for my size or shape. Firstly, I dress according to what suits me and not like a wannabe – this makes me ultra confident when I step out in a sheer sari or a chic dress. Secondly, I have a very good understanding of what are my best features and try to highlight them through dressing and makeup and try not to think about the not-so-good ones. Next I never say or let myself down by thinking I am fat or flabby – I think I am curvy and chubby and tell myself in order to become fit, I need to cut out flab and sag. To add to this all, I have a great friends and family circle that always encourages me to do better and never criticized me for my body, though there have been times when I have mocked myself. I strongly feel one shouldn’t be so cruel in criticizing themselves, foremost on their body! Our body is the only place we got to live in and we have to embrace it as it is, love and do the best for it – staying healthy, staying fit, being mentally strong first – I don’t let a mere number/alphabet on the clothing label define my happiness or mood.
I focus on what I do like about my body and my appearance, I use positive language when talking about myself and I wear clothes that I feel good in.
I do my best to not compare myself to others, and I take care of my body in the best way that I can by maintaining a mostly healthy diet and staying active.
By looking after myself with healthy food, sleep and exercise plus appreciating what my body is capable of. Having gratitude for all of the incredible experiences has carried me through reminds me to be kind to myself.
I wear things that fit well, suit my body, and bring out the best of my curves. It can get pretty discouraging trying out something that used to fit perfectly a year ago only to find out it couldn’t reach your waist or zipped up. I had a pretty shocking revelation recently whilst picking out dresses for the beach. A dress that fit me just 2 years ago couldn’t make it past my thighs or my stomach! It was traumatic. I had already been noticing my face and overall shape distort and that experience lowered my self-esteem. I think what helps me keep positive and confident is to stop looking back. We have to accept that we are growing, changing beings and just as we mature emotionally and mentally, our bodies do too. We have to be willing to get to know ourselves again and again and see ourselves as we are now as beautiful and worthy of comfy, beautiful clothes that make us shine like the supernovas we are!
I do self development daily, positive affirmations every morning, meditate & always try to find the good even in a bad situation.
I wake up every morning, look in the mirror and say one good thing about myself. It’s not always a huge thing, but I keep reminding myself of one beautiful thing about myself. It can be on the outside or on the inside. If I’m feeling well on the inside, I do so on the outside.
I try to remind myself of all the good things I like about my body, rather than focusing on the negative. I also refuse to own a set of scales as I don’t believe in weighing yourself, who cares what size you are as you feel good! Don’t feel pressured by society and the media to be the “perfect size”, love yourself for who you are and remind yourself daily of how awesome you look.
I remind myself that I have made a lot of progress over the years and that it could be worse.
I try to do things that make me feel beautiful like doing my makeup. I also will do activities I really love that make me feel confident.
I try to be my best and not compare myself to others. I think as women we tend to compare our weakness to the strengths of others, and we’ll never feel good by thinking that way!
I drop comparison to other women. I find what I love about myself, and focus on that. I also do things that make me feel sexy, and confident in my body, like dance, yoga, gym work, or simply sitting in silence breathing and listening.
I respect it. I chose food that nourishes it from the inside out, I exercise because I CAN move not because I need to lose weight. By changing my mindset around these key areas, I LOVE my body. I love that it lets me walk, breathe, love and achieve so many things. I no longer look at my body as an object that needs changing.
I stay positive about my body by reminding myself as much as it’s needed of how my body is incredibly strong and beautiful, how much this temple has been through but always manage to bounce back and heal itself. After all nothing can beat the super power of creating a life. The stretch marks, cellulite and sagging breast…are just a reminder of the beautiful process of creating a little human being.
As silly as this may sound, I work out to stay body positive! Seeing how far I can push my body really increases my confidence. Knowing that I am both mentally and physically strong enough to complete my workouts really helps to keep me feeling positive – and the progress on the scale and in the mirror doesn’t hurt either!
I always struggled with body confidence growing up, so now I really focus more on the things I love about my body, instead of obsessive over the things I don’t, I also make sure I do things that make me feel confident in my own skin. I took up yoga practice this year as well which has also been a HUGE aid in learning to love my body.
Exercise helps me to connect with my body. Knowing that I am doing what I can where I am helps me stay positive and confident about my body which is part of my sexuality.
Learning to sew taught me to love how I look. I think a lot more about what suits me, what I enjoy wearing and that clothes sizes mean absolutely nothing. Slow sewing beats fast throw away fashion hands down now – I love creating my perfect wardrobe that fits me like a glove and makes me feel amazing every day!
It’s daily work, some days I feel fantastic, other days less, specially in these days where the girls that are preached have curves, are small and look flawless or “on fleek” all the time. I’m the opposite, I’m naturally very skinny and really tall, so it’s not easy, specially when you open instagram and there is a rain of girls with amazing curves, perfect make up, and height. I just always try to find a part of me that I’m loving every day, and feel thankful for it.
I will admit, sometimes it’s hard to get up in the morning, look in the mirror and appreciate my body. It’s not easy for any of us. No matter how curvy or how slim we are. Only recently did I stopped caring so much about the way I look. What helped a lot with that was asking myself whether my body defines me, whether it’s something that people will remember me for. I have thought about it a lot and come to conclusion that my body is just an instrument to experience life. It’s amazing how much confidence it can give to you. You realise that your body isn’t really YOU. Another experience that made me come to this sort of thinking was the fact that in the summer I actually lost a lot of weight, I was slimmer than I had ever been before in my life. Was I still insecure about my body? YES! Did it make me happier in any way? NO! Now I’ve actually gained my weight back and I feel more confident than ever before. I like it just the way it is. Additionally, it’s 21st century. The cult of women’s beauty is slowly disappearing. We’re wayyyy past the times when woman’s beauty was everything that she could offer to the world. We’re powerful! And that power comes not from the way we look but from the way we are! One tip: In order to start loving your body, you first need to start loving yourself and appreciate the fact that you are a human being. Our bodies are magical. Remember that.
I’m grateful for the incredible job it does on a daily basis and what it has the potential to do. We are all given different body types and shapes and we should embrace our individuality and rock what we have got!
I have stopped comparing myself to others, which took me a long time and was actually quite hard. It’s so easy to fall in the traps of social media and constantly wonder why you are not as skinny or pretty as others. I actually unfollowed a lot of those people on Instagram and now only follow people that truly inspire me. Focusing on the body parts that I love the most about myself has helped to move forward as well. Whenever I had a bad day I tried to focus on the parts I really love about myself and instantly cheered myself up. Accepting myself for who I am was also a big part in becoming more body confident. I did little steps at a time, but I’m finally at a stage where I don’t look at other people anymore and wish that was me. It’s time to realise that nobody is perfect and that we all have cellulite, scars or wrinkles.
I focus on what my body allows me to do, instead of getting caught up in its physical appearance. When I exercise, I like to do exercises that are going to improve the way I move and function within my life. Whenever I find myself feeling critical of my body, I like to remind myself of the incredible things my body has helped me achieve, especially creating and growing my beautiful children.
I just keep reminding myself of how happy my every day life would be if I continue to be positive and confident about my body. I believe that the way I carry myself would make a lot of difference. I try not to be bothered by what other people think because it would only make me stressed and anxious.
I don’t compare my body to other people’s bodies. If you’re so focused on other people you will never love yourself. And loving yourself is so important! Also, instead of focusing on the parts of my body I don’t like, I focus on the parts of my body that I absolutely love such as my smile, my freckles, my legs, my arms, and my eyes. Instead of dressing to hide the parts I don’t like, I dress to show off the parts I do. When I wear a skirt that shows off my legs or wear red lipstick to make my smile brighter, I feel so amazing and confident! I also practice yoga which has had such a big effect on my mentality. I have learned to love myself, love my life, love my body, and be grateful for everything and everyone by practicing yoga regularly.
I remind myself that my body is my home, that it deserves nothing but love and respect. After waking up, I take a look in the mirror and call out the things I love about myself. It gives me such a positive start to my day!
Getting in tune with what it needs and how it feels (separately to my brain telling me!). Taking a second to consciously think about how my body feels at a particular moment makes me more inclined to help it and be more in touch with it – even if it’s something as simple as appreciating a stretch or remembering to be grateful that my body gets me from A to B.
After focusing on numbers since I was a teen, I’ve learnt to embrace my body for what it is and not what it’s not. As long as I’m taking care of my body by eating a (mostly) balanced diet and getting my body moving by walking or going to yoga, that’s all that matters.
Some days its very hard after going through breast cancer and what this disease has done to me. However, I think about what I am happy and proud of. The parts I love and I pay attention to my other parts. Like I change my nail polish frequently and I change my hair style constantly. I look forward to the total body transformation in the end. Appreciating how soft my skin feels.
I try to eat healthy and exercise to make me feel physically good. However, I think I stay positive knowing that I have two beautiful kids that I love dearly. After having each one of my kids, my butt got flatter and hips wider. I will never have a pre-kid body again, and putting any unrealistic expectations on myself just would stress me out. Most of the time I’m just trying to run out the door with my hair fixed.
I have started turning any negative thoughts I have into positive ones, like “Man, my legs are so big” to “Man, my legs are so strong, I was able to carry that equipment across the hall so quickly!” I eat healthy for the most part, I am active, but I’m not going to deprive myself of the foods and drinks that I love. I am an Amazon, I am Beautiful, I am sexy, I am happy!
I have learnt to accept my flaws for what they are. I always compliment myself every morning that I wake up with positive things. Whenever negativity seeps in, I always recite the positive things and remind myself that all these flaws make me the unique person I am.
I try and not beat myself up. I know I will never be the skinniest, neither the fittest. But if I nourish myself with love, exercise, and eat well, then I feel more confident and positive about my body. It is so easy to beat ourselves up with body image and what is deemed perfect – it is saturated all over social media. Our shops are laced with exercise gear, and fad diets are advertised everywhere. It is hard to run away from it all as it is confronting by the scrolling on Facebook or Instagram, flicking channels, and walking the streets. I know what my body needs and that is self-care, encouragement, and being true to myself.
I try to work out on a daily basis, eat healthy and also pamper myself in any way embracing my curves.
I have good days and bad days, but I try to focus on what got my body to where it is today and all the good things it can do. Why focus on the fact that my thighs are bigger than I’d like when they’re capable of taking me on big amazing walks? My body is the product of my genes and my history – both are things I love immensely so how could that possibly be a bad thing?
I set my clock early most mornings to meditate for 15 minutes before the madness starts. I practice yoga three times a week and run twice a week and I find that these three things keep my head and body fit. I also eat well and feel like when I am putting good stuff into my body, I feel more confident about it. Even if the weighing scales stay the same! I see my stretch marks after birthing three babies as testament to a body which has lived, nourished and given birth to life. I try not to compare myself to women younger than me and remind myself that mentally, I feel so much better now than I did in my teens and early twenties, even if my body does not look as “good” by beauty standards.
I exercise: I try and not beat myself up for not conforming to perfection; I seldom weigh myself -scales are the devil’s work; I try and think of three things I like about the way I look instead of 30 things I hate. Last but not least, I don’t obsess over mirrors. They are tools (mainly to make sure I’ve put on my eyeliner straight) not instruments of torture to point out every fault. I’ve never been the tallest, thinnest, curviest, prettiest person and I’m cool with that. It’s why I love clothes – style covers a multitude of sins!
I accept it as it is. I’m at peace with how it is. I’m grateful for being healthy. I eat well and healthy most of the time, as a sign of respect for my body. It helps in feeling good and it’s also better for my mind while meditating. I’ve noticed how nutrition has a huge impact on the mind too. I practise yoga to help me get into my body, to listen to it and tame my mind. Yoga has been a great teacher for me in accepting what is, without trying to change it. I’ve seen my body evolves over the years and I’m grateful for it. Yoga has also helped me push physical and mental barriers. The lessons we face on the mat are often the lessons we need to learn and apply in everyday life. After almost 17 years of personal development, I’ve understood that happiness is not in the way we look, the size we fit in or in the image we project but it is created within. It has to come from inner wellbeing and contentment. As above, so below; as within, so without.
I try to fuel my body properly and exercise regularly. I also use affirmations and positive self talk to overcome negative thinking.
Through eating that my body is nourished with good food, regular exercise, and reminding myself about all my favourite parts of myself.
It’s hard as I age. The images we see everywhere makes it hard to love a mom body, a provider body etc. Because it’s not a model body. I do remind myself to stop focusing on the negative, look at my positives.
Make sure that I eat well and exercise regularly. From there just reminding myself that I have been made this way. I am unique and beautiful in my own way. Giving myself a break, my body has created another life which is incredible. With that there is bound to be changes but they are changes that I should be proud of.
It is important not to compare yourself to others. We all are individuals and it is impossible to become somebody else. So I do not have big boobs and few wrinkles on my forehead, well no one is perfect. I am 100% sure that whomever I would compare myself to, has hers own insecurities. But to be sure I do all that I can to look to the best of my abilities, I take care of myself, I keep balanced diet, workout and that is enough for me feel good.
Working out helps me to stay positive and confident about my body. When I workout first thing in the morning I go through my day with a sense of accomplishment and I feel strong and healthy. I’m also really big on practicing gratitude for the little things on the days I feel less than flawless. That goes a long way to lifting my mood.
Taking big care of it. Eating healthy, exercising, but the biggest thing I have to do is feel good in my skin and don’t care what other people think.
I remain positive and confident about my body by celebrating what makes me unique and admiring what my body is capable of daily. I see myself as a healthy, strong, passionate woman who can take on the world – and to me, that is beautiful.
One of the first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is to look at myself in the mirror and tell myself that I have been beautiful and wonderfully made. Of course, I do continuously workout and make sure that my body is healthy. The most important thing is to remember that inner beauty matters most and everyone is beautiful no matter what shape or size they are!
I’m a bikini competitor. When I was prepping for my last show, I stepped on stage at 8% body fat. I was looking in the mirror, so happy with all the progress I had made with my body. I was thrilled! But I found myself thinking, I wish I built up my shoulders more. Or, I wish my gluten were a little rounder. Not kidding, these are the thoughts I had about the best body that I had ever known. I was in the best shape of my life thus far and still was finding flaws. And then it hit – it doesn’t matter WHAT my body looks like, I will always find something that I want to improve upon. It was then and there that I decided I would never spend another minute criticizing my body for anything. Since there will likely always be something imperfect about it, why waste any time thinking about that? There is so much to LOVE about my imperfect body. I could waste away hours of my life just waiting for my body to be perfect… or I could love it in spite of all of it’s flaws, knowing that it will never be 110% perfect… so why not love it just as it is now?
I stay positive and confident about my body by fueling it with things that make me feel good! This includes SLEEP, movement practices (strength training, yoga, Pilates, walking etc), massage, healthy food and the most decadent chocolate cake (when needed). By choosing things that make me happy and feel good on a daily basis, I find I have a much better relationship with my body. If you a crunched for time and money? Sleep is the #1 thing you can do for yourself that will help you feel better, look better and make better choices throughout your day.
I think growing up with a solid foundation in loving who I was really helped. I have been bigger than most girls my whole life and at times it would bother me. The more I loved myself and accepted myself I noticed those around me enjoy that ‘me’ more.
I stay positive and confident about my body by looking at my children and knowing that my body is a vessel of life. My body creates life and what is more positive.
I grew up immersed in my culture (Maori, indigenous people of New Zealand), appreciating the journey my ancestors went through, the battles they survived, the illnesses they encountered, the discrimination they suffered and everything in between in order for me to be here today. I’m the culmination of all who have come before me and this awareness comforts me in knowing that my body was built for purpose. Moreover, my mind processes the way it does, for a reason. I include karakia (prayers/affirmations) into my rituals; waking up in the morning, throughout the day and at night, to reinforce the idea that the best of 100s of years of ancestry has allowed me to be here today. I appreciate where I come from has equipped me with the necessary tools, skills and attributes to serve my purpose.
Don’t get too bothered about what people say. Eat whatever you want, listen to body, stop when it wants to stop, excercise sometimes – be happy.
The big thing for me has been learning to love my body, flaws and all. Catching the negative thoughts & replacing them with positive affirmations.
I love my body.
I love my body because it can run.
I love my body because it can stretch.
I love my body.
Reading The Goddess Revolution by Mel Wells worked wonders for my body confidence too & I recommend it to everyone I can.
Healthy eating, exercise, taking photographs of myself is a good way to see myself in photos and really learn to love what I see (which is where my blog comes in handy).
I feel my best when I don’t focus on the physicalities of my body, but instead listen to how my body feels (on the inside). When I nourish my body with good food and get myself moving on a regular basis, I honestly feel so much better – stronger, more energy, and less anxiety. I also remind myself that everyone’s body is different – and our uniqueness should be celebrated.
I focus on being confident that I’m putting the best possible foods into my body and exercising as much as I can. If I can feel good about what I’m doing everyday and know it’s my best then I feel confident when I see myself. I can acknowledge that I’m far from “perfect” (whatever that is) but I’m exactly where I need to be because I’m doing all that I can.
I think that we need to embrace our bodies the way they are but at the same time give them what they need. It is important to be confident and to make sure our bodied are healthy and that they work properly, no matter the shape or size of them. Often we tend to overlook this aspect and that is when we start having doubts. I see this every day, women come in and want to buy a dress that hides their bodies and their personal style just because they are afraid to show off their bodies. I always encourage them to take another piece of clothing that fits their personality and have an “before & after” look in the mirror. They are always so happy that someone is encouraging them to show how amazing their bodies are. I love my body and I know that I am the only one responsible for that. It does not matter what other people think about it, I feel confident because I treat my body with respect, I always dress for my shape and I give it what it needs: healthy food and pampering!
I remind myself that there’s no such thing as a perfect body. I also love trying new trends and clothes when I feel in a bit of a rut!
I remind myself that my body has gotten me through 34 years of life and it’s the only one I’m going to get, I can be mad at it or I can appreciate all the lovely and resilient things about it.
It’s taken me a while to become accepting of my body, and in the end what helped me a lot was focusing on the parts I loved about it. Going from that, I eventually stopped referring to the parts I wasn’t crazy about in negative ways, which helped me actually start seeing the beauty in them as well. I ended up focusing on and appreciating the fact that I have a strong, healthy body that allows me to do whatever I want.
I wear clothes that make me feel good, that usually does the trick. If I’m having a particularly bad body confidence day, I’ll try to focus on all my favourite parts of my body and talk about them out loud. It actually works!
I remind myself how strong I am, how much my body has gone through to get me where I am today. I find encouragement in seeing other women, of all shapes and sizes, striving towards living a healthier lifestyle by eating better, working out, and supporting each other. It also helps that my husband is extremely supportive and loving.
By looking after it. I really believe what you put in, is what you get out of it. It’s so important to me to give my children a healthy body image, so this really motivates me to ensure I feel good about myself and have good thoughts.
I try to focus on the things I like and ignore the things I don’t like. Things I can’t really change I try to ignore because it’s a waste of my energy.
By appreciating all the amazing things it can do. I treat it right with nourishing food, exercise and rest and in return I am grateful for all the things it allows me to do – regardless of what it looks like.