Why It Is Ok To Lose Your Stylish Ways
Why it is ok to lose your stylish ways, I am guessing that this was a title you weren’t expecting to see on a blog of a personal stylist, in fact on any fashion blog really. Nowadays we are bombarded with stylish women on Instagram and on blogs, yet for many women, they just don’t know where to start.
Maybe you are reading this thinking that I am being ridiculous but you see I know that there are women out there that have either lost their way due to a life-changing event like becoming a mum or never really knew what their style was in the first place and that is why I want to share with you this story.
You see 8 years ago I lost my stylish way, I have always had a strong style identity but it wasn’t until I visited my parents one weekend and mum said to me that I looked like a student which I took instant offence to because after all I was in fashion and I was just experimenting with my style.
A few weeks later, I went to a party and thanks to the power of Facebook I was tagged in a photo, this was the moment that I realised that my mum was right. The person staring back at me wasn’t the girl that I knew, I had totally lost my stylish way!
From that moment I vowed that I was no longer going to be something that wasn’t me, that wasn’t true to my stylish self. I was only going to invest in pieces that told the world who I was and what I wanted to say.
You see as women we all go through this at some stage in our lives and what I am trying to say is that is totally ok so don’t make yourself feel guilty about it. Let me tell you another story.
A beautiful woman who always prided herself on her appearance starts to go through the life-changing event of having a baby. Suddenly her body starts changing and her focus then becomes the amazing little human that her body is making.
As she gives birth to the super cute bundle of joy her focus then turns into providing and caring for this little one, she totally forgets to spend time on herself.
3 years later she is stood in front of the mirror looking at a woman she just doesn’t recognise, she has lost her true stylish self. It is in this moment that she decides to take action and make a change.
Does this sound familiar?
Let me tell you another story…
A woman in her twenties has struggled with body image most of her life. When she was at school she was picked on because of the way she looked.
Over the years at school, she began to believe the things that were being said to her, the names she was called.
When she turned twenty she realised that she shouldn’t be allowing other people’s views of her to influence her mindset, after all, she had to see the parts of her body that she loved. From that day forward she made a pact with herself to learn to love her body and never allow outside views to influence her mind.
Jump to the present day and she has worked hard changing this mindset but standing in front of her wardrobe she realises that she has been consumed by negative thoughts most of her life, which has meant that she has never really found her personal style.
Do this sound familiar?
So what is the point I am trying to make?
Well, it is ok to lose your personal style or feel that you have never really had it. Why I hear you say… that just doesn’t make any sense!
In fact, it actually does because in order to really find your personal style you need to start in a place where you know that you need to improve upon it.
When you know that you are not happy with who is looking back at you in the mirror, only then you can then start to understand more as it all starts with mindset and willingness to really define and get to know your personal style… your true stylish self!
So let me leave you with this question… do you really know and understand your true stylish self?
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