Why It Is Ok To Lose Your Stylish Ways

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WHY IT IS OK TO LOSE YOUR STYLISH WAYS

Why it is ok to lose your stylish ways, I am guessing that this was a title you weren’t expecting to see on a blog of a personal stylist, in fact on any fashion blog really. Nowadays we are bombarded with stylish women on Instagram and on blogs, yet for many women, they just don’t know where to start.

Maybe you are reading this thinking that I am being ridiculous but you see I know that there are women out there that have either lost their way due to a life-changing event like becoming a mum or never really knew what their style was in the first place and that is why I want to share with you this story.

You see 8 years ago I lost my stylish way, I have always had a strong style identity but it wasn’t until I visited my parents one weekend and mum said to me that I looked like a student which I took instant offence to because after all I was in fashion and I was just experimenting with my style.

A few weeks later, I went to a party and thanks to the power of Facebook I was tagged in a photo, this was the moment that I realised that my mum was right. The person staring back at me wasn’t the girl that I knew, I had totally lost my stylish way!

From that moment I vowed that I was no longer going to be something that wasn’t me, that wasn’t true to my stylish self. I was only going to invest in pieces that told the world who I was and what I wanted to say.

You see as women we all go through this at some stage in our lives and what I am trying to say is that is totally ok so don’t make yourself feel guilty about it. Let me tell you another story.

A beautiful woman who always prided herself on her appearance starts to go through the life-changing event of having a baby. Suddenly her body starts changing and her focus then becomes the amazing little human that her body is making.

As she gives birth to the super cute bundle of joy her focus then turns into providing and caring for this little one, she totally forgets to spend time on herself.

3 years later she is stood in front of the mirror looking at a woman she just doesn’t recognise, she has lost her true stylish self. It is in this moment that she decides to take action and make a change.

Does this sound familiar?

Let me tell you another story…

A woman in her twenties has struggled with body image most of her life. When she was at school she was picked on because of the way she looked.

Over the years at school, she began to believe the things that were being said to her, the names she was called.

When she turned twenty she realised that she shouldn’t be allowing other people’s views of her to influence her mindset, after all, she had to see the parts of her body that she loved. From that day forward she made a pact with herself to learn to love her body and never allow outside views to influence her mind.

Jump to the present day and she has worked hard changing this mindset but standing in front of her wardrobe she realises that she has been consumed by negative thoughts most of her life, which has meant that she has never really found her personal style.

Do this sound familiar?

So what is the point I am trying to make?

Well, it is ok to lose your personal style or feel that you have never really had it. Why I hear you say… that just doesn’t make any sense!

In fact, it actually does because in order to really find your personal style you need to start in a place where you know that you need to improve upon it.

When you know that you are not happy with who is looking back at you in the mirror, only then you can then start to understand more as it all starts with mindset and willingness to really define and get to know your personal style… your true stylish self!

So let me leave you with this question… do you really know and understand your true stylish self?

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  • Jaiden
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    Wow! What a powerful post. This is a subject not touched on a lot. Many of us are secretly going through this. Very inspiring and thought provoking. Thank You. Jaiden xx

    • TheNewGirl
      Reply

      Hi Jaiden

      Thank you so much for your comment. Yes, lots of women go through it but no one talks about it!

      I am so glad that you found my post inspiring!

      Thank you again
      The Girl! x

  • Jelena
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    Very inspiring post. I found out in story number 2. Although 9 years have passed since the last birth, I still feel guilty if I devote myself for some time.

    • TheNewGirl
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      Hi Jelena

      Thanks for your comment. I am telling you that you need to devote a little time to yourself. Self-care is very important even if it is 5 mins to grab a coffee or tea and have some quiet time to yourself and your thoughts.

      Thanks again.
      The Girl! x

  • Amy
    Reply

    My style is constantly evolving. I think it’s necessary to lose your stylish way every once in a while to find it again!

    • TheNewGirl
      Reply

      Hi Amy

      Thanks for your comment. That is ok, our style is always evolving that is how you keep yourself interested and excited about your style and wardrobe!

      Thanks again.
      The Girl! x

  • Mariuxi De Souza
    Reply

    I agree 100% with you! We all have the right to change our style and adjust it to whatever we’re going thru! The key is to stay true to ourselves and feel comfortable in whatever we choose to wear! We need to dress to please ourselves and nobody else! It’s the only way you will get genuine people to follow along your journey! Great post!

    • TheNewGirl
      Reply

      Hi Mariuxi

      Thanks for your comment. Yes, totally you have to stay true to yourself always!

      Thanks again.
      The Girl! x

  • Tara Mallick
    Reply

    I definitely do not know my true stylish self and I fear I may never find it. Maybe I’m not meant to have “style”! Ha 🙂

    • TheNewGirl
      Reply

      Hi Tara

      Thanks for your comment. I completely disagree, you will find it and just need someone to guide you in this! You will find your style because everyone has it, you are just feeling lost but I am here to help and guide you through this! Together we will find it! 😀

      Thanks again.
      The Girl! x

  • Leila Piazza
    Reply

    For fifteen years, my “stylish way” was yoga clothes and construction work clothes! I had a great wardrobe full of beautiful clothes, but I rarely wore them. It was fine. I was working all the time, but when I ran to the store on the fly, it sucked when I ran into friends with my yoga pants and crazy hair, etc. Anyway, thanks for this post. I have only recently been in the process of finding my “stylish way,” and it’s a real work in progress. It’s great to connect with others who are thinking about the same things. I have a general blog about all sorts of things, but today I wrote my first fashion post. Here it is, if you’ve got a sec. I’d love any kind of feedback from someone with fashion experience.

    https://leilapiazzadotcom.wordpress.com/2017/10/19/gotta-get-going-a-fashion-post-i-love-fall/

    Thank you for the great thought-provoking post. Have a great day!

    • TheNewGirl
      Reply

      Thanks for sharing your story, Leila. You will find your stylish ways, it is a process but trust me it will be worth it! I am here if you need help don’t forget that! x

  • Jo Nguyen
    Reply

    What a great post! It has got me thinking about my own style. I believe it’s normal for our style to change over time whether we realise it or not. As long as we feel comfortable in our style and not care about what the world thinks are all that matters.

    Thank you for sharing!

    Jo
    http://www.outlanderly.com

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